"I Love you but love her too"....WHAT?

[Notlikingthis]

Yep, that's what he actually said to me. I wasn't ready for that. I couldn't think of a response that wasn't negative so I put up my hand and told him that it wasn't a good time for a discussion. I am still shaking and a total wreck. It's one thing to know that there's another woman and suspect that he's fallen for her but to hear the words is more than I can handle. I have no idea what to say, if anything, should he bring it up again. When responded with avoidance he looked at me like he didn't understand why I wouldn't engage!!!!

I've been searching the site for someone who has a H or W that has said anything even remotely similar and can't find anything. Geeez, I wonder why? I'm beginning to wonder if it's not a brain tumor or something more serious than MLC.

He's still talking about moving out and it seems that it's become a priority to him. He told me that he didn't want the walls of our home to become a prison. My response was that I didn't want that either. I took that as a sign that he needs even more space than I'm giving him. How much more space can I give him than not being in the same room as he is when possible? I won't move out so I guess it will be he that makes the move if he feels that strongly. There is no adversity or arguing. He is loving and caring most of the time, hasn't moved to another bedroom and wants to talk about his "feelings" (as screwed up as they are). He has times of rational thought and can be pleasant and then there are the times of irrationality and depression.

I can't believe this is happening. I'm trying to see this in a positive way but there is no way that I can see anything good coming of him moving out (with the definite possibility of the OW moving here and in with him) and being apart from him for who knows how long.

I feel like I'm in a nightmare that I can't wake up from. How will I handle this and keep my sanity? What do I do next?

(I'm trying to find a way to link this to my original thread...."Am I in the right forum"? Can anyone tell me how to do that?)