There are times I'm angry that I wasted so much energy on trying to stand by him, trying to get him to see that our marriage could work, that I was willing to forgive him. I'm glad that he didn't give in.
Antonia, I think the next time you think about getting angry about his choices, it would be a good time to change that to a hearty "Thanks!" You didn't waste time doing that. Neither did I and I did the same. What I see instead is that I was given the gift of goodbye by somebody who needed something else. Somebody who saved me from continuing that path. From somebody who gave me a gift I can never say thanks for enough. We got a chance to get our life back without that negative person. That fallible human being.
Life is good and gets better every day. Especially when you stop wasting the time thinking about saving them, right?
You are truly a gift and it's always a pleasure to read your writing. Thanks for being you and thanks to your ex for setting for you free. I for one and am truly grateful, even if there was some unpleasantness you had to go through to get here.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
