I've been doing a lot of thinking (an understatement for all of us here) I think I am going to tell my W that I am not up to talking with her tonight...that I've had a long week and am tired - which is true. That I do want to talk with her and will go to a therapist... But leave the conversation at that. Then I need to NOT bring US up or talk about anything except our daughter, and any life thing that we need to... Nothing about marriage or reconciling.
She has noticed how much weight I've lost, and mentioned repeatedly how nice I look, that I'm wearing new clothes, and I look fantastic, and I do feel better that way! Which is one of my goals....and I need to build on that for me, and as ACC says, lean out, and see if she leans in.
I'm really torn on the MC... Cause, I worry it's too early, yet, feel if we got the right counselor that it might open her eyes to things... But I worry, she'll just not agree with what they are saying and want to stop or tune it out. I think we need more time...
