Can anyone share stories of how their R was on the brink of divorce due to a SSM and how they have overcome it and have reconciled? I have been seperated on and off for 9 mths due to a SSM on my part. H walked out. He has been showing signs of wanting to work on it, but has said he wants a intimate relationship very badley, but not with me, however in the next breath he says he's not ready to walk away. Being that we have overcome a lot of our issues except intimacy and he's not willing to work on that aspect, I don't know what to do. I have really starting questioning if he having an affair.