Thanks for the advice. I really fear deep down that my W has this as the next step in the plan...I guess that's my hesitation, that she is so against trying. It makes me fearful and think that she can then just say "Well, we tried... No other choice now but to divorce" I'm mind reading there, but, it's hard not to.
She also said to me this weekend about us trying.. I said "If we try and fail, then we've lost nothing, except effort" and she said "If we fail, then you'll blame me and say that is really what I wanted, to not fix us" I wonder if she is picking up on my mind reading and hesitancy?
