Betsey, I wanted to chime in and give Betsey a hug {{{{{Betsey}}}}}
I will have to change my Nemo name and admit that I am a shark, Although living in my current aquarium has made me a little bit "bubbles".
For my sanity I had to stop psycho-analyzing my W. I have come here and gotten excellent insight into her thoughts and actions from everyone here. It seemed to me that by thinking about what she was thinking all day and concentrating so much on our next interaction that I was putting so much pressure on myself.
I honestly feel that she could sense that pressure when we spoke and it scared her. So to make it easier on myself and her I just stopped.
In terms of DB'ing I am not very active. I'm really just staying as busy as possible and trying not to make things worse. Kind of like the patriots, run the ball and minimize mistakes.
Is it working? I dont know. I feel much better and my relationship with the kids is the best its ever been.
Betsey I feel the same way that you do. I just want someone to thank me or to consider that maybe Daddy doesnt want to watch cartoons tonight. I realize that this kind of thanks is about twenty years away so I may as well forget about it.
Betsy I want to thank you, thank you for helping me. thank you for helping so many other people here. Thank you for fighting to save your marriage when everything in the world seems to be trying to tear it apart.
Thank your for taking care of everyone else, worrying about their welfare, feeding your husband when he really doesnt deserve to have a woman cooked meal.
Your a hell of a woman Betsey and a man would be lucky to have you care for him.
I dont know if my DB path is right for anyone else but me, but you are tearing yourself apart by worrying about his reactions. How about for a few weeks you get his thoughts out of your head and REALLY take care of yourself.
We know that most of his decision is coming from inside him, our actions help but he knows where you stand. He can see the changes you made, its all up to him now.
thats just my two cents, you are a better db'r than me and have helped me so much I hate to see you hurting.
Cycler, I dont agree with all of your points but I think that you are right in being a little bit critical, we all need that from time to time.
