Hey Betsey! I have been thinking about you all weekend. I also want to apologize for something. Conflict is very scary to me, and sometimes I am just not confident enough to jump into a big discussion unless I am sure that I have every single fact. I don't feel that way (that I have a lot of facts) in your sitch, as I came along late in the game. Yeah, I said I respected the post from Cycler, as it was thought provoking. I stand by that statement, meaning that it had the potential to bring about a lot of discussion. And, I do know that it is not easy to go against the crowd. However, I do have to say that none of us have all the answers, particularly never having met your H at all. All we can do is toss out suggestions and offer support where needed. Being a "well meaning friend" is not such a bad thing, so I can't quite understand the negative connotation to it. So, I apologize for my first post. It is not what I felt, and I hate not being true to myself and to you. I was just certain that I did not have enough info, and that I couldn't possibly make sense. After reading through your reply from yesterday (Betsey, that has affected me as nothing here ever has), I have decided that there is no shame in being one of your "well meaning friends." I don't claim to know everything, (hell, I don't even clain to know much!), but I do know that I see that it is only fair to offer suggestions, not accusations. I wish I would have said that.
Take Care, Betsey. If you ever need anything that I can help you with, please get my e-mail address from Meredith. It is not one that I want to post here.
Hope you can understand what I'm trying to say! I sometimes feel as if I just "get" you and Meredith so well, so it must be the same the other way around, no? I can't always count on you guys to read between the lines though.
