It's a double-edged sword I think, when we get to see the "real" spouse...you know they are "in there, somewhere", but "not"...gives hope, yet frustrates.
Believe me, I get the "jury is still out" feeling, kinda sad though, that this is reality, I miss when that phrase wouldn't have even crossed my mind...guess this is one lesson in our journey.
I think you are going to see some "interesting" changes soon...
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm