Hud, you're a nice man, even if you don't have Paul Newman's eyes (but hey....does ANYONE???)
You've been a great friend to Betsey, even tho she stalks you!
Bets, I just wanted to check up on you today too....
Why is it that two people fall in love and then something tragic happens and one of them gets stronger by default while the other becomes immobilized by the fear and then cyles between NEEDING the other to be strong, being angry that the other is strong, compeling the other to be strong and then condemning the other for that strength?
Isn't it kinda what it feels like? I want to throw CONTROLLING out of the psychopop language. I'd let 'feeling controlled' stay and add 'taking control' and then 'set up'. Is that about right?
If a person can't accept that they aren't as strong as their partner, and if they can't realize that strenght can and often does transfer back and forth between partners , and that strength can be quiet or noisy and both are needed...what can be done? I think if we find the answer, there's a book in it somewhere.
Take a little break today, but do get dressed and go out with the girls for ice cream. Maybe you'll find the key to the garden.
