WHY did you feel bad about no opening the door? Because it is not in your nature not to be "nice?" You should NOT feel badly at all! After all he was delivering the "final decree" that you are no longer married. I actually think that he was a real a$$ to expect to see you and give you that personally.
XH- "Here, Tori, here's the D certificate that represents all the pain and hell I've put you through in the past __ years. Oh, and by the way I would like to give it to you in person just to stick it to you one last time that is it OVER and I've decided to live my life w/o you. And, I'd like to be friends, and hope there are no hard feelings." BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...
Tori, I think that in order for you to move forward and heal that you need to distance yourself from him. I think it is perfectly OKAY and NORMAL for you to NOT want to see him.
Stay strong, Tori. I think you have an amazing gift to offer the world--your personal insight, struggle and gift as a writer. Your journey and pain WILL HELP LOTS OF OTHERS WHO ARE STRUGGLING TO FIND THEIR WAY.
Bless you.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
