What a day for you! I was sorry to read about your H's email. The cowardly twerp. I agree with you. If they want to leave, fine but why do they leave in the most destructive way possible and with as little compassion as possible? That discussion should have at least occurred in person ( if it had to at all) but they keep swinging that wrecking ball.
(((((B))))) I think you are doing the right thing. Process everything. Scream and cry especially since the boys are gone for the weekend. And see your lawyer on Monday. Listen to your options. Think about what is best for you. Family law lawyers have seen it all before (trust me) They are the experts in you jurisdiction and you are paying for their advice. It is OK if you ask for some time to think about and digest what the lawyer says. Golf mom gave you excellent personal advice. This is the business side of things. Strong does not equal nasty.
We are here for you. You are not alone. As you said in your list above, divorce does not have to be the end of the line for your relationship but it may offer some protections for you and give you some space to breathe.
