Why move back to Newcomers'? You are doing okay here...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yeah true, suppose I am not a newcomer as the the BD I just had did not hurt anywhere near as much as the first one. I will post all about it later when I have put the kids to bed.
Thanks S, good to know you are still checking in on me!
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
2.4, if we all had to go back to newcomers every time there was a set back we'd get dizzy with the round and round!!
May I suggest you google communication & validation techniques? I know there's an excellent site - that I can't find right now, sorry in a rush - but you'll certainly find enough to give you some ideas on how to proceed.
Keep on keepin on 2.4!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
Hi 2.4, just wanted to let you know the we're all here for you. Please don't give up on the progress that you've made. We're all really pulling for you. Yes, this is a tough time you're going through, but you can still apply what you've learned to this situation.
You've been there for me when I've ecperienced some pretty hefty setbacks myself, and the advice you offered was just as valid in your sitch: keep focussing on yourself and make sureto keep your own happiness as your top priority.
And keep posting, because you know we all read your posts and we all want you to get through this a happier and wiser 2.4!
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13
Thanks all. I am going to start a new thread as this ones getting a little long and I could do with a fresh start. I'll post a link to it when it's done. Although I am typing on my phone so it could take a while!
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
