That's true. It's an ego trip to have an impressive person be impressed with me.
Originally Posted By: GummyBear
Dumb question - you've worked a dbing plan - right when it turns the corner you allow yourself marriage hurting thoughts. Do you want your marriage to be killed - or - are you trying to punish your husband?
It really is a third option. I have no desire to punish my husband - he was as committed to us as I was but neither of us knew how to recover once things fell apart. If I thought my marriage had just turned a corner, I'd be dancing a little jig. It's true that as I dropped the rope my husband picked it up. The end result is we continue to see each other 8 to 12 times a year. That's a comfortable old friendship, but not progress toward reconciliation, living together, recommitting. I think that my husband stopped wanting to be married about three years ago, and I can resist that for another 5 or 10 or 40 years, or I can accept it, welcome the friendship my husband is offering, and find deeper companionship elsewhere, with someone who wants me. I'm not saying the attractive co-worker is going to be that guy. I don't even know if he'll hang around long enough to see my divorce finalized. I just know that hoping for the best is no guarantee, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life hoping.
M: 43 H: 44 M: 12.5 if the 5.5 year separation counts Bomb (I dropped it): Dec '07 H said finit: Jun '10 I moved on: May '13
