Ahh, Bets - Don't you know that's how a lot of men deal with their emotions? They are supposed to be the strong one, the provider, the protector, the fixer. They deal with things by looking for solutions, not by talking about how they feel. He must have been scared to death, wondering how he could "fix" this, and seeing you fall apart, and knowing he couldn't "fix" it.
Neither of you were "wrong" in your responses - just different.
You were both just two terrified young people trying to get through a crisis the best you knew how.
I know you're having a blue day, but don't choose this time to dwell on things, okay? How about going to a movie? I saw Calendar Girls with my mom - very cute. (Hey, maybe we should plan a nude "girls of divorcebusting" calendar? )
Ellie
(Disclaimer - yes, I know what I just said about men's responses is a gross generalization, and actually we are two overlapping bell curves - I know this because in my house, WOMEN are from MARS and MEN are from VENUS Still, it's a useful way to understandf some things.)
