I have tried going dark or what I thought it meant. It didn't seem to phase him.
You are not doing it for him, it is for YOU, to protect YOU. You are making the changes to become a better person that only a fool would leave. You are not making them to win him back, that will not work.
Originally Posted By: stungBT
I love to cook but have a hard time doing it right now because he will eat it and whine about it.
I looked into classes at the college near me but it being summer my choices were limited and most of them during a time I would be at work.
Then stop cooking for him, cook for YOU! If he chooses not to eat it is not your problem.
I just found out about free college courses. Try googling coursea. You take them online for FREE!
Originally Posted By: stungBT
I lack friends and I do not know how to get them. I do not trust easily.
Maybe this is an area to work on.
Originally Posted By: stungBT
I have goals I reviewed with the coach and I have started doing some things towards them, but they are slower goals. Like loosing the weight I put on due to some medicine I was on. Some other goals are events like I want to go here or there and I have already made plans. However, most of them do not require me to get a life. I do have a job and I am so far ahead in my job training material that I have to stop.
There are other things I would like to do - like get a new car, learn to fly a sailplane, travel, etc. but they take money and until my life settles down I am in a hold on to my money position.
I feel like I am whining but in reality I am just frustrated.
They are good goals. I particularly like the learning how to fly one. I have 3000 hours of flying time, but am in the same boat as you, and cant afford to fly anymore.
Maybe you can scale back some of your goals or come up with new ones. This is the time to experiment and work on your bucket list.
