5/3/13: Today was a half positive day. Somethings about my 180’s are working at least from my perspective. So yesterday went like this, I got home from work and came in and went straight for my luxurious basement suite! lol! I normally go right upstairs to see her but today I didn’t. I got a few things done before I was going to get out of the house for a few hours. After being home about 20 min I finally made my upstairs to grab a belt from my closet. This was the convo:
Me: Hey what’s up? W: Nothing much what are you doing? Me: I’m getting out of the house for a little bit. W: Oh ok, tomorrow i’m going to the range with some of my coworkers at 12 then after that i’m going out tomorrow night with a girlfriend. Me: ok, cool. Well i’m heading out i’ll see ya later.
I leave, only to realize I left the belt as my pants are falling down. So I go back in to retrieve my belt.
W: I just sent you a text.
I didn’t know so I checked my phone. Text said:
W: I’m going to outback to grab a salad. After I read it I asked if she’d like to go together as I was hungry and it was time for me to eat anyway. She agreed but said this doesn’t mean she has changed her mind. It was nice to get out, whille eating she brought up the M...She asked what furniture would I wanna take when I left, I said not sure I haven’t thought that far out i’m still trying to find a place. She said you know i’ve thinking since you have the kids(From 1st M) every other weekend how about I find a place, that way this is less chaotic for them. I said can we talk about this later she said yes, i’m sorry. So we finish eating. We head to sell a car and she goes with me. So while waiting for the car to be appraised we somehow got back to the M. She said I just don’t want to make to many waves especially until we know if we are staying together or not I just feel like I need complete separation from you to really see if i’ll miss you. This caught me totally off guard, I thought she’d made up her mind. She then goes on to say “look you really hurt me, but this isn’t east for me either(Crying now)” I tell her I understand but no crying we are in public. She says, look i’ll be honest you not checking up on me, texting, asking me to stay the past week or so has been a huge surprise. She told me that, over the years i’ve treated her like a kid in being overbearing and “too protective”. I simply nodded and said i understand. I told her that while I don’t agree with her moving out I understand and will be as supportive as I could be. With that she wiped her eyes and we started talking about random stuff. We finally made our way home and we gave each other a hug and I retreated back to the man cave...
Many things to take from today, I was patient and didn’t push which is a huge 180 for me so i’m just going to take it day by day...
