Actually what I am saying is don't "control" your anger...... acknowledge it and let him know you are feeling it...He needs to get de-sensitized to it. I think maybe he just didn''t get enough of any OTHER feelings from you for awhile EXCEPT anger...but you have come a long way from that........
He needs to find out from you, that you can be mad and it has nothing to do with him.
and he doesn't have to come up with an answer for it each time..... Let him know this.
Each time you are angry he doesn't need to come up with a response all he has to do is listen....he can completely ignore it and that would be okay with you....let him have an out on the anger.....like you said he is not responsible for your feelings...anger,sad, mad, happy, sorry, sick, whatever.... that it's no big deal, we all have feeling and we all decide how important each one is at any given moment....Obviously something his mother never taught him!!
I'm sorry I might be muddying the waters for you too....
I just saw so many things about him that were being ignored I felt you were not seeing the forest through the trees...
You have some real good opportunities to show him your soft side....your real genuine side, go ahead and risk his reaction........let him squirm....let him try and hide or avoid...YOU are not the people on TV and he can avoid that all he wants but not YOU!! but don't you avoid letting him know your feelings especially. You will be doing your relationship a favor by sharing yourself with him...
You can share your feelings in a great way I see you do it here all the time....what if everything was great in your relationship? How would you be communicating to him then? now do it....
Love and hugs to you!!!! From a cheerleader who just imploded on the bb Trish
ps: I will come up with more ways for you to show your soft underbelly!!
