can i get her to stop cheating?

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How are you doing....simple enough question, not realy that simple of an answer!! I've been working mostly on strengthing my relationship with my kids.

As far and the M, like riding a rollercoaster blindfolded. We've been to the counselor four times but starting to question why go at all. The week before last during counseling (which is the only time we talk about the marriage) I told her that "I am here, I'm not going to beg or push, but if she wants, I am here". She said that she only "talks" to OM and nothing more and all the others are out of the picture. I know that from the many differant ring tones on her phone and the fact that she will answer some when I or the kids are in the room, and others she takes the phone outside with her to smoke and text/talks out there.

I had knew in my heart that she was lying about the "we just talk over coffee before work", but while cleaning the van I found a piece of paper and it was a receipt for a room on Wednesday night-Thursday morning (Wednesday was counseling). She's had to work every Wednesday for the last six weeks straight, but her pay checks have not changed. Since we don't talk about M except during counseling, I got to let it eat me up untill last Wednesday. When I brought it up she said it was just so they had somewhere privet to talk. During counseling it's talk like there are shadows of hope, maybe getting things started towards recovery. But after three weeks of minding my own buisness and not checking up on her, I had to know if she was really going to work or to get a room again. I found a charge for a hotel and in her purse I found a room key for a room that she had reserved for the night. When I asked her about it, she got very upset, said she told me she had no desire to work it out, got a shower and left. We haven't had more than a three word conversation for two days now, I think this may have sent her over the edge. But I can't trust her to tell the truth during counseling, about not sleeping with him/them, about where all the cash withdraws are going...I don't know that I can trust her about anything because I know that everything she's said about anything of any importance has been lies.

So, I'm trying to GAL, she's still seeing him and sleeping with atleast him, and I'm pretty sure at least two others and has no desire to stop.

How am I doing...the sun comes up and I wake up, the sun goes down and I (try) to sleep.