Snodderly, what is it about MLCers and money? I've realized what a big trigger money is for my H in general, but I'm astounded that he would really try to force us out of our home so he can profit. The only time during the D that he changed his tune was when he was under contract on a new house with gf. The deal fell through, so he retracted his offer.
What's frustrating is that my H has had lots of money since he left. He had been stashing it for awhile. He has also received two large bonuses which I am entitled to a percentage of, but haven't received yet. It's been really hard paying the mortgage, etc. I have had to put a lot of wants and needs on the back burner.
I am going to be really upset if I have to buy him out of the house or split proceeds with him. We had it listed shortly after he left. I had no choice since I wasn't working. I scrambled to get a job so the boys and I could keep our home. That was the agreement. It's because of my hard work that the house has equity once again. My H bailed. He shouldn't profit from that. If I end up renting I will pay equal to, but likely more than, a refinanced mortgage. I also won't have the write-off. Who knows how a judge will see it. Regardless, my H will buy a new house. His gf has lots of available funds.
When will he see that dumping his family and having more money won't bring happiness? He has sacrificed as much. Will it take him until the end of his life to look back at all he had and lost? He has missed the last year and a half of the boys' lives. I would be beside myself with grief if that were me, but he has just gone on, seemingly unbothered.
