He has been out of work since Aug. This nightmare of my life started just before then...or so i thought. He lost his job n checked out. We are not affording anything including our mortgage. We were just approved for a refinancing loan to save our home. This really is the only reason im still here. I feel horrible for my kids n am strong enough to be on my own. Its just the money piece that holds me back.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
So h still running around all night. Im so tired. I can honestly say i want to throw in the towel. I tell him im done..his response...u know u still love me. Do i want to give me a hug? He calls me by phone n says come on...tell me u love me.ugh..really? I refuse to give in to his sick mind games. I wont say i love u n what scares me is im not even sure i do anymore. This has gone on too long. I asked again if the ow still involved n he swears no n there no one else. Yet he walks in the door three mornings in a row at 11am. Doesn't look tired. Apparently had sleep. Why can't he go??? I see all these other mlc men n they want out so bad they leave. I feel ad if im being tortured.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
H went out to do some "shopping" last night. That typically means we won't see him again. I smelled a ton of cologne on him...is it normal for a 40 yr old man to shower and put on cologne to head to Walmart at 9PM??? I don't think so. He came home at 7AM...ugh..got to get out of this bad relationship. I go back and forth bt waiting it out and just running out the door already. Just when I am ready to run I have second thoughts.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
If you are the only person in the house making any money - how does H have money to go out? To buy cologne? To put gas in his car?
I would stop giving him ANY access to ANY money. He can go out and get a job if he wants to keep up his lifestyle, but this business of him going out all night is nonsense. And if I were you, I'd do NOTHING to enable it. So long as he still has a roof over his head and you putting food on the table and no consequences for him running around all night - why WOULD he get a job???
Actually he collecting unemployment. He is interviewing but i hear you. It is incredibly frustrating n the cause of many arguments. Until he lost his job he never ran around all night or wear cologne. I can and have put up w a lot but to b honest the running around all night is what makes me sick. It upsets the kids, causes me to lose sleep and is largely why i have lost any interest in working things out. I beg him to get a Job n go.
me-42 H-41 S-12 S-8 M-15 yr f/o bout OW- 11-29-12 H moved out 10-31-13 Filed for divorce 12-27-13 D- 10-21-14
