Had a rough day at work and found out through Facebook that W made plans for tomorrow night - to a bar with all her single friends. I got fired up that I had to find out there, when we had plans tomorrow during the day with friends and were talking about having people over tomorrow night.
We were supposed to go to dinner tonight but I came home and she was dragging her feet about going. I then noticed she grabbed her purse and tried to hide it going in the bathroom, presumably to put her rings on. I snapped and went off about I had enough of our arrangement and that it needed to change. She was adamant that her feelings haven't changed and she wanted to talk seriously about divorce. I was having none of that conversation and we went back and forth for a while. Finally, she got frustrated and started flipping through the phone book and writing down numbers.
At that point she tried to go downstairs and go to bed but I wasn't done and kept pushing, going on for an hour about us needing to try and she needs to stop thinking about how she's so unhappy and focus on being happy here, because she was for a while. She gave me the silent treatment and I kept talking for about an hour. I forget what she finally said but it was enough for me to go and take the dog for a walk.
When I came back I just poked my head in to apologize for badgering her tonight. At that point she made snide remark about this is why she's unhappy and I got ticked off again because I'm saying all along that this stuff doesn't happen if things are going well. I stomped upstairs and started to talk through the house.
At that point she ran upstairs grabbed her keys and went to sleep in the car. This freaked me out because it's supposed to get cold tonight so my reaction was to hound her again to come back in the house. She refused and I finally went back in. She followed about 10 minutes later.
Talk about pathetic. I took a weekend with a planned dinner and plans tomorrow and turned it into a mess all because I got annoyed she was going out with her girlfriends.
M: 29 W: 29 T: 12 years M: 4 years Discovered OM: 02/10/12 ILYBNILWY: 03/01/12 W Moves Out: 05/04/12 Reconciliation Starts: 09/06/12 In-house Separation (Again): 03/09/13
