KML, I am disappointed. I researched common symptoms of gambling addiction, and responded honestly and fully. You then took my comments out of context to serve your own ends.
Did I say
Quote:
"My husband's not a gambling addict because he sells his plasma to fund his gambling"
No, I didn't. I said, in response to a listed "trait" of addicts, that H didn't "take" money from the house.
And I didn't say
Quote:
"My husband's not a gambling addict because he once won enough to support us for 4 months"
You took this out of context about a statement that H had "quit", with no "side effects", for 9 years.
My whole point, regarding my H, is that whatever his issue is, it is way deeper than a gambling addiction. It seems, because his current preoccupation trends to a pairing with "addiction" that is what is seized upon by some posters here.
I do wonder what would have been said if I had started posting when H was developing his "health drink". Oh MizJay, he's clearly a health drink aholic...
Or golf... Or hockey... or business...
All of these things are distractions and "take" from family time. He spent just as much time, and in some cases just as much money, pursuing his other interests. This is a 20+ year behavior trend, in the balance of that he has been an "other-aholic" far more than he's been a so-called gambling addict.
But, if it serves the interest of some to focus solely on the gambling, then have at it. As if, the gambling is the problem...
Its as if, H's lying on the side of the road and some say
"Oh my goodness!! He's got a cut on his arm!!"
And I say,
"yes he does, but that's not the worst of the problem."
Tut tut say the some, "Just look at that cut! You are clearly in denial!"
Meanwhile, H is bleeding out from his severed leg.
I personally think H's issues are more pervasive, and more detrimental. I'd be relieved if it were "only" gambling. As I see the sitch, the chance of H pulling his own 180... well I wouldn't bet on it (pun sort of intended).
MissA, I would like to know the true nature of H's issues... it does make many parts of the sitch easier to deal with - and perhaps enables me to make better choices too.
I thank all posters for their time. Even if I don't agree, I am open to discourse and discussion
A couple of requests though.
And OT, you should appreciate this one... keep an open mind. Yes H gambles. That may, or may not, make him an addict. (Please please note that I'm not saying gambling is not an issue, just that I'm saying its not the whole issue, or even, to my mind, the most damaging part of H's behavior. Seriously, what kind of a father threatens their 12 year old son over a sandwich? But that incident gets no comments what so ever. Mind boggling.)
If you're going to quote me, then quote me. Don't twist things to suit your own agenda.
I will look into getting the book mentioned. Haven't read anything lately, so its probably time for me to pick something up.
Your serve
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
