Going to bed eay?!? You're DBing not entering a monestary.
I hate to be negative. But it sounds like she wanted a R with this guy but settled for the FWB arrangement because that was the best she could get from him. Then when things hit a rough patch with you guys, she reached out to him, hoping he would be willing to move beyond FWB (we always romanticize the ones that got away). But if she's posting sad songs on FB it might mean the bloom is off the rose with this OM and maybe regretting trying to get back together with him.
If so, that means you've really got to start focussing on yourself and letting her wonder if you've really moved on. But don't tell her in words. Show her with your actions! Remember that the whole wanting what you can't have works for you as well. If she believes you're moving on, it might compel her to start pursuing you.
Play it cool and follow sandi's advice. She's as close to being an expert on this as anybody on this board.
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13
There are loads of threads here where LBSs obsess over and analyze the lyrics of songs their WAS are listening to or posting on FB. Don't go there, it is a complete waste of time. Mindreading, and misplaced focus.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Nope I totally agree with the lyrics of songs. We all have our moments I go from listening to forget you to when I was your man. I'm just not gonna post it.
Just left my drs appointment. There putting me on Wellbutrin. One for the depression but I've also been smoking a lot from stress.
I have a busy today. Working til 5. Take care of my friends dogs then I have to DJ tonight until 1230.
Talked to doctor about my situation. And he started strongly recommending to end the M and move on. I was proud of myself because for the first time I even made a plea to him about my faults the emotional abuse and being passive and gave him examples of my wrong doings. It didn't change his opinion on the matter. But I felt it was a big first step for me not to play the poor me role and deflect blame. His response was good you realize it for your next R.
So I'm feeling pretty good today. Gonna work on me and take the mindset it's over and if W wants to talk about reconciling, well see at that point where were both out. I'm working on saving me right.
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
I hate to be negative. But it sounds like she wanted a R with this guy but settled for the FWB arrangement because that was the best she could get from him. Then when things hit a rough patch with you guys, she reached out to him, hoping he would be willing to move beyond FWB (we always romanticize the ones that got away). But if she's posting sad songs on FB it might mean the bloom is off the rose with this OM and maybe regretting trying to get back together with him. .
Oh I totally agree. She even told me in the beginning that she would want a R but he wouldn't. Then he would and then she wouldn't. Let's face it she's comfortable with him. So why not go back there. But he can't provide for her financially but obviously he can emotionally. But really this is out of my control. This is her life! Her decisions!
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
Anybody else feel like the weekends are the hardest to deal with? I use to be so excited the weekend was here. Now all I imagine is what my W is doing. Ok back to GAL now.
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
Keep an eye out for tremors (shaking in your hands)
Originally Posted By: Jeack
Anybody else feel like the weekends are the hardest to deal with? I use to be so excited the weekend was here. Now all I imagine is what my W is doing. Ok back to GAL now.
Yup, time to GAL
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Keep an eye out for tremors (shaking in your hands)
Oh great! lol
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
My s is doing very well on wellbutrin so far. Has helped with anxiety and a little weight loss. I hope it helps you! Just one tool though, find others and take responsibility for taking good care of yourself.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Just got home from my second job. And beat. I'm proud of myself though. I'm a dj on weekends and resisted the urge. I do miss my wife but really think I'm working on myself for my next R. [censored], but reality I'd setting in!
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
Me:34 W:26 Together:5yrs M:6/4/11 1st bomb 11/11 2nd bomb 1/21/13 W files for D 3/18/13 She's living with her mom S:13 Previous marriage S:11 Previous marriage She has OM Previous FWB
