Hi T, yeah, I'm glad you did a little tinkering with the wording before you sent the text. What you wrote was nice a neutral, stating your needs but reassuring her that you are still open to communication. Nicely done, IMHO. It's a far cry fromwhat you might've written earlier this week, so that sounds positive. It seems as if you're at least thinking clearly enough now to notdo anything that would put future reconciliation in jeopardy -- if that's still you're goal. I applaud you, mate, you're functioning in a healthy way despite some serious emotional turmoil. Keep it up. And definitely get some feedback here if you're unsure how W will respond.
It's funny, your W's responses almost make her sound likea LBS, with all the temperature taking and angry response when you chose not to rresond immediately. You can take from that the awareness that you're in more of a position of power right now. Let that give you the courage to get your own needs met and set some boundaries where appropriate/necessary.
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13