Betsey, Betsey, Betsey, (sigh) Will I ever be as wise as you???
Lots to address here- Your H must be wondering what planet you just landed from and where the real Betsey is! I know you've been doing this for quite some time, but it seems he is still expecting you to erupt and you just keep on being your nice shark self. Go You! It is so amazing to me to watch this stuff in action. Who woulda thunk it?
As for the road trip---Contrary to popular belief, pam WILL go shopping. Not only that, Pam MUST go shopping. I am tired of putting myself last. Where did it get me? Why, LAST, of course! So, I will shop, do a spa, get a make-over...any/all and more of the above. AND, I will gladly bring a Brad Pitt look-a-like. I don't really even care if he chooses to steal my money, either!
I am reading and re-reading a lot of your posts lately. It scares me sometimes, because they cause me to have to face many unpleasantries about myself. You sure do take responsibility for your actions, don't you? I respect that. I am working hard on the same...hence my need to write up a list of goals. They will be painfully honest and be very difficult for me. But, I remember you telling Tracy that you liked my honesty. When I feel I have nothing else to offer you guys, well, at least I have that. (As do you). I am starting to realize, though, that the honesty is not good if the perception is bad. Meaning, my truth is not necessarily my H's. So, I will keep this in mind as I forge on. I think this will all make sense to you.
Ahh, Betsey! So much to think about. Good thing H works a billion hours a week and leaves me alone with my thoughts much of the time....