Any feedback on the text message to send would be great. Just want to make sure it's worded well. Make sure theres no sub text Im missing.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Why not just send a text to ask if you could stop by later and tell her what you wrote in person?
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
I would love to but I'm hours away with the kids. Won't see her until Monday.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
I still think your w is very stubborn, who knows how she'd interpret your text no matter how you word it.
Do something unexpected
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
Right now I think she would not be expecting anything from me but you are right she could take it anyway.
Send her a funny pic? More?
Maybe I'm best off just trying to connect with her over the next few days.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Right now I think she would not be expecting anything from me but you are right she could take it anyway.
Send her a funny pic? More?
Maybe I'm best off just trying to connect with her over the next few days.
I am sure she does expect something out of you. She expects you to constantly find reasons to contact her rather they are vital at that moment or not. I would just give her some space for a couple of days. When I was in your shoes, I wanted to constantly talk with my XW for any reason at all. Now, I know what she wanted for all those months: space. Give it to her. Be mysterious.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Its been a long confusing week and my head has been all over. Seeing you in persen tonight made me glad and I hope we can spend some time together monday.
I think this is less risky and a little less pursuing
Just a quick thougth
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
It's been a long confusing week and my head has been all over. It was nice to see you in person today.
Honest and pursuing kept to a minimum.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
T- I think you need to take a breath here and relax.
IMO I don't believe you are going to lose her if you take some more time on this.
Is that someone you want to begin a new relationship with anyway? Someone that will not give you some time to process and gain clarity on your thoughts? (Not sure if she is pressuring or threatening you or not?)
It seems like your head is in one place and your heart is in another. I've been there many times throughout my sitch.
Through my experience I learned that only when my head and heart were reconciled was I comfortable in making what I felt was the right decision at that time.
Sometimes it took a while, and that is ok.
We aren't deciding on burgers vs. dogs for dinner here, these are some high stakes with major ramifications.
If you are confused which it seems you still are, tell her so and tell her you would like to have a dialogue with her regarding all this but at a later point.
Respect yourself and hopefully she will respect you also.
