Confused about what I want

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Thanks Portia for all you said and for the love and support.

Not really sure what to say. But I do want to answer a couple of your thoughts and questions.

NO, I did not see this coming. So when I say NEVER, it is really my way of accepting what this is, the end of my marriage, life as I knew, family, etc.

And yes, I see H daily, but he is distancing himself more now...rushing the kids out the door, waiting in his car, or walking out hurriedly. So while I am very pleasant and polite, the only people who seem to want to extend the convo are my boys who hang on to me and every word as they all walk out the door.


Another thought I had and want to get opinions from everyone who has one to offer....is self creating interactions with the MLC'er wrong? I don't want to invade his "space", but my dilemma really stems from and for our boys. They are desperately resenting going over H's. They are always bored and more often seem to not "like" Dad. I was thinking about breaking up the monotony for them by inviting them to do small and short activities on H's weekends, while also inviting H too! All with H's permission of course. Like I am thinking maybe to invite them to go get ice cream, or lunch, or bowling, or something. I would take the boys irregardless if H wanted to go, but could this create more bad than good? IDK. I guess I just want to see all the perspectives and/or consequences of this before I do anything.