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Originally Posted By: Accuray
Good job cbtdad, don't be surprised if she follows that up with a period of icy coldness.

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My thoughts exactly


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W brought son back. I just told her thank you and good luck the rest of the weekend


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I'm going minimal contact from this point on. I am also going to start journaling so I can see where things seem to make a difference.
I'm going to Dallas next weekend for 4 days and then the weekend after she is having a breast augmentation surgery. So it will make it a little easier for minimal contact. I do like to try and see son everyday so I I'm going to pick him up from her as bring him places instead of playin there. Any other ideas?


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Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
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Yipp - freakin - ee!, C. Good on you. Really. Much better convo with wife, yes?

Ideas? Keep looking inward. Keep doing the work. And good idea to pick him up.

Become the man you want to be.

And yep, she is going to be a little cold for awhile. But no matter, you just keep going.

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"Yipp - freakin - ee!, C. Good on you. Really. Much better convo with wife, yes?"

Yes. Convo with W was much better. And I got to say a couple line in there that I would have to bring up Sunday when she returned. Now there truly is nothing to discuss and I won't need to bring it up.
Headed to company crawfish boil with son. He's gonna love it.
Fun jumps, games and lots of other kids to play with


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BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
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hmmm... sounds like fun, wish I could go!! Have fun cbt!!


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I had some crawfish boil... It did not make my list of "gotta have some of that!" list...

CB.. I think you did a great job. The more you do it the easier it is going to get...

Remember this... Thoughts become words... words become actions... actions become habits.


“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter

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MrCas I see you are in South Carolina. I love a good low country boil.
Most people who say they don't like boiled crawfish haven't had it done right. Lol
I'm trying to keep my thoughts strictly about me. Very hard of course:)
W just FaceTime son goodnight and her tone and attitude were completely different. She was being the W I would want to be with basically. But then I can't help but think as soon as she gets off phone she is going to be hanging out with OM.
Just need to keep thoughts on me!!!


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Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
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Well done cbtdad on the new validation work, what a difference compared to the texts that were sent and mentioned here.


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Hi, cbtdad,

You are moving in the right direction--toward focusing on you!
I need to continue that as well and NC (or as little as possible is also my goal).

I was reading The Breakup Bible recently and it recommended a 30-day NC rule to move the whole detachment process along.

Now I know w kids that NC is not possible, but it IS possible to keep interactions brief and friendly and focused on your son.

YOu can do it!!!


M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.
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