Hi again,me again.Needing help again. I think I have a handle on how my reactions to some P/A coping skills of my X, caused that famous whirlpool (donwward negative spiral in Nemospeak). I also realize that I had some P/A responses myself. But I am less clear on the things that PROVOKEDE a P/A response from X...and I am guessing that these might be the crazy making things? I need some examples if you can of how we can provoke the P/A response from partners who have a tendency to use P/A to 'defend' themselves. Thanks, Betsey!...I'm trying to see if I can use an approach in depositions that will CONFRONT but not PROVOKE more of same and thus get me a better settlement. So far, I've just been defensive and that seems to make it all worse. In our M, I think I was a Mrs. Fix-it and then got upset when I received no attagirls in response to a job well done. But now I guess I will have to learn what I did to PROVOKE......gd
