I'm definitely trying to work more on me -- I got in touch with my advisor to try and finish my degree remotely, and I've been writing (and submitting!) more. It's hard to break the focus on him, because you're absolutely right, I've been doing a lot of mothering. :-/
I've made a list of 1 year and five year goals, and realized that they're ones I want him to be on the journey with me for, but aren't ones that are dependent on him. I can't tell if that's part of the problem, or what, but at least I know what I need to do to move towards happiness.
Me: 30 H: 29 M: 2 yrs T: 5 years BD: 12/14/12 Divorce talk begins 1/6/13 I filed: 5/20/13 -- no contact since
