You have to allow her to grow and learn. You can compliment her on things that she does if it is appropriate to do, but other than that....she's got to figure it out and how to pull her self esteem out of the dark hole.
You can't fix her because you didn't break her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
