I am a NICE shark, not a mindless eating machine.

[holdingon]

So we all need to keep swimming... it's the only answer.

THE ONLY ANSWER

I have a friend who I have been "coaching" through finding out about her H's EA. He told her the EA lasted only 3 weeks, but he has spent the last month vacillating back and forth between "we had so much together" and wanting to recommit to his M. Well, last night he told my friend that it was "over" he was in the "twilight zone" for those three weeks and that nothing "was real." He has finally decided ON HIS OWN that he cannot talk to OW anymore, including phone conversations.

While I was "coaching" her (cause everyone else was using the "how dare he" approach) she has in turn educated me, again, that the real solution to this is to wait for them to come to their OWN conclusions, and, alas, that requires that we KEEP SWIMMING... however, I do think Sydney IS getting closer.