She's a woman with free will and can do as she likes. It's not a counselor's job, Christian or otherwise, to control the minds of their clients.
This is probably where you need to spend a lot of time, figuring out your need to control her. This has always been on your dashboard and is probably why she left and why she feels the need for mediation.
Are you working on this control thing with your IC?
DM, I know how hard this is but you really have to let her go to even think there might be an opportunity for her to return. You say you're Christian (and I'm not challenging that), what about letting go and letting God?
Didn't you read the Cloud Boundaries book? Read it again.
I wish I had your gift of expressing via the written word. My strength is through verbal communication. You said exacting what I was thinking. Great post. I know I used to think similar. Why are her friends not trying to talk her out of it, etc? In actuality, it was just another way of pointing the finger at someone other than myself.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
