Keep breathing. Meditative breathing. Over and over.

Keep your mind calm. Don't assume that any news about what W is or isn't doing with her A equates to a change in anything about your R. Be observant about what she's doing. Be pleasant. Focus on you and your changes. Let your goal be to master the fine art of STFU (as T^2 would say).

Be sure to make space to breathe and take care of yourself while she's with you. It's easy to get sucked down unhelpful paths. It's critical to have ways to get yourself quickly recentered.

No matter what, accept and embrace that it will be a learning process.


Me - 54
P - 59
Together 5 yrs
She left 4/2012