Suckerpunch down to the wire

[SemperFi00]

SP, you are getting great advice from some very knowledgeable, experienced and caring vets...... We all struggle at times because let's face it, this stuff is hard and we are 'learning' under a lot of pressure.... Appreciate you posting and sharing you situation, following it has helped me a great deal.

Stay Strong!!

and you are READY to pull it out fast, even when she's just talking to you about life in general, b/c you don't want to look OR be the one who "does all the work." I say, "why not be that one?"

Newsflash...the spouse who wants to reconcile the most, needs to take the first step, and the next step, and the next thousand steps...

and not worry about what the other is doing.

I saw a great man do this (the conductor of the EE workshop actually).

He asked his then 8 year old son something like "Christopher, remember our talk last month? Well I've really been working hard not to snap around you when I'm working. So, can you tell me, how am I doing with that?"

The son took the question very seriously, and reflected.

In that moment, I could see that the son felt valued by his hero father, asking HIM, a mere boy of 8, how he, the HERO DAD was doing...and all this for his son.

The boy beamed afterwards and "congratulated" his dad on his progress by shaking his hand or patting his back. I can't recall exactly, but they both seemed like best friends at that moment. It was a small but heartwarming moment

25, thanks for all the time and commentary you share with folks on this board. It is incredibly generous of you and I find your comments incredibly interesting and though provoking....

Thanks for all you do.