You kinda brought that on yourself, though, right?
Just keeping it real. Remember that rock I wrote you about. I just kept talking and texting to it. Til I finally got it.
I want you to get it.
There is no amount of talking, yelling, wishing, threatening or anything else that is going to make that rock respond.
That's the simple truth of it.
You cannot, nor should you be able to, make her be who you think she should be. You cannot make her act the way you think she should act.
Because she is not you. She is a person who has every right to act as she wants. As do you.
People have a need to be heard. We have a need to know that we matter enough that what we want is important. That's how your wife feels and that's how you should feel about you. When she feels that she is not being heard, she feels less than, unworthy, disrespected.
My h did some horrific things. But here's the thing. If I loved him as I said I did, then, I needed to lovingly let him go. I wanted him to be happy without a condition attached to it. Even if it meant that it wasnt with me.
It doesnt mean I had to like what he did or even understand it. It just meant that if I meant what I said, then I had to allow my actions to match my words.
If you have any hope of the possibility of a future with your wife you need to really believe that she needs to see this through. And you need to let her. That really is the bottom line.
