Hey Bets,
I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I would have KILLED to have a conversation like that with my X...anytime, ever. Honestly, I read what you wrote and thought there would be a punch line at the bottom: and then I woke up and it was all a dream.

It was....a HEALTHY and respectful conversation and I realize that you were responsible for initiating and guiding it, but his resonses had no glimmer of P/A.
Amazing! I wish you could get him to initiate your going back to MC and that the MC could suggest that now that you both have had time to grow that it is time to move back together in living arrangements to PRACTICE what you both have learned. (an OUTSIDE and EXERT opinion is much better than a Bets opinion, neh?)

Appreciation: I am guessing that that is one of your H's love languages and that maybe in the past you forgot to appreciate him . (Or, when and if he didnt' seem able to appreciate you you finally got tired of not getting reciprocal appreciation...that is my case.) But look how that lovely DB technique worked! I think this was a win/win day....celebrate tonight, you deserve it!
gd