"Limerence" is arguably classified as a "mental illness", albeit a temporary one, as you are quite literally crazy when under it's spell. That's why so many WAS seem completely different than we've come to know them.

The other thing to be aware of is that your spouse's departure triggers "Limerence" in you too (for your spouse) which is why your feelings for her are much more intense than they were before the bomb. The symptoms of unrequited Limerence are different and very painful. Like your W, you are ALSO under the influence of brain chemicals, which is driving your behavior and leading you to do things you normally wouldn't do.

If someone described this situation to you 4 years ago, you would NEVER predict that you'd react the way you have.

The prescription to get over this spell, and these feelings you are having, is quite simply distance from the object of your obsession, and that's what Michelle's prescription for GAL is all about, to get you interacting with OTHER people so that your own obsession can subside.

This will make you more rational, able to make better decisions, and better able to cope. The importance of GAL cannot be stressed enough!

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015