JP, I see that you separate. I think my approach will be like yours too, you know let her follow her path...in my sitch is a bit different, well as you know we're still living in the same roof so I can not allow cake eating...she's free to go but she won't go same with me I definitely will not leave the kids. But I might have to reconsider when d18 move to college which is this coming fall.
Sandi you didn't count your sitch--you're a success DB'ed while living in the same roof. So I'm moving fast. No communications for 2 days that I know of. We are talking nice considering...I'm backing off when needed so I don't pursue..I'm basically just there.
Pretty much direct approach no lovey dovey stuff from me. So today I looked for solution focused therapist. I got home and I asked her straight up "if I set up a therapy would you go?" She said yes we can try.
I figured we can try and see how it goes after the initial consultation. So tomorrow I will make an appt. Baby steps right?
Til next time, Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
