Why is that so powerful? I think about if we D and if she remained single I could deal with that much better.
Is is that I think I failed? Is it rejection? Is it control/possession? Is it insecurity?
God there is nothing that comes close to that fear, and this sounds bad, really bad... but I think I could handle her death easier than her remarrying.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
uRworthy I have a tab going with Mach1, I need to make one for you now for your therapy :-)
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
First things first. I would cost waaaayyyyyy more than Mach. Just sayin. LOL!
I am going to hear from him for that but he dont scare me none. Hee hee.
J, I have to tell you how strong I think you are for sharing those honest thoughts. Really amazing.
The thing is this. You might not be happy, but, you would be ok.
Here's the thing about fear. If you think about it, and feed into it, it owns you. But if you look it straight in the eye and tell it you will be ok, it loses its power. Because it's true ,you wouldnt die, right?
I think that your fear lies in all of the things you said. Fear of failure, insecurity, etc. Know how I know? Because I had the same fears. Still do with some things.
As far as fear of failure. I felt that for a long time. But then I realized there are two people in a marriage and each bring all kinds of things to it. And sometimes, it just isnt possible for it to work. Didnt mean I failed. It just what was. Could we have both done better? Yes. But I did the best I could with what I knew. And as long as I really believed that, I didnt fail.
The thing is this. You might not be happy, but, you would be ok.
Thanks for your honesty. For me that is a very depressing realization. That is how I feel now :-(
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
JP, I am in the same boat as you and worry about the same things. Also I feel the failure with my sons and friends because of this sitch.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
I hate this boat! I feel like its constantly sinking. I need one of those survival suits like they have on the crabbing boats on Deadliest Catch! Hahaha
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
