Today my son asked me why I can't get a better job so if my H goes we can just stay where we are. I tried to explain to him that no matter how good teh job I just cant afford things on one salary.
First of all - have you consulted an attorney? If not, then it is time to do so. This doesn't mean you have to file - but find out what you might expect in terms of child support, spousal support, etc. THEN you can make decisions about what you could or couldn't afford.
Second - this is causing HUGE stress on your kids, the way the situation is now. You may think at least it is preserving some relationship and normalcy for the kids with H - but in reality, they are walking around on eggshells waiting for him to leave. It may be time to set some boundaries.
