So yesterday she calls me to ask if I could pay the rent for the apartment. I took this as a good sign, her including me in the apartment that she worked hard to exclude me from. The money already comes from "our" account, so no worries there. But she asked me for help and I helped.
And then! I took the kids to church last night and saw her truck there. Didn't think too much about it, but then when I went in to sit down I was looking around and saw her and OM sitting there. It set me into a bit of a tailspin. Wasn't able to pay much attention during the service. I didn't look over to them at all after the first inadvertent glance. Rushed out so I wouldn't bump into them. Saw her afterwards, but he had left, so I still have never met him.