Weird scenario

[Jeack]

I keep thinking back to the last time W wanted a D and knowing her or at least thinking I do. What ended up bringing her back was she found out that my XGF had contacted me and I was suppose to have dinner with her but canceled.

I feel like in the beginning of DB'ing by my leaving her alone and not responding to calls is what pushed her to OM.

She had a very strong relationship with her grandmother, but they had a fight about the time we were getting married and her grandmother moved to Florida. She felt she left her and has contacted her at all. Throws away Christmas and birthday cards if they sent her a check she'd throw it away (finally they started sending gift cards.

So I guess my real fear and knowing her is, if I don't push for the relationship I know it will end. Her therapist had a name for it where she can flip a switch so she doesn't feel pain or remorse. And she said she likes it that so she doesn't get hurt.

So how will going dark work? I don't think it will. By doing it early on it just sent her to the OM. I'm not pointing blame. But I'm not dealing with a normal person. I also know its not all her fault. That I played just as much in our M failing. But some advice in this case would be awesome!