golf mom, I think you are very wise to remain in your home. If you are happy w/the locale and the schools, why change just for the sake of moving because he wants you to?
I think it's both the gambler, but more importantly mlcer that is driving this money train right now. Oh, yes, he feels entitled to half of the equity and he's seeing dollar signs because the equity has improved. Previously, home sales were down and now they are beginning to rise once again. He's obviously not thinking clearly because there are some rentals that are even more expensive than a monthly mortgage payment, but again, he's looking at the bottom line...if he can force you to move and sell the house, he'll get a nice chunk of change. He's in the frame of mind that he doesn't care what happens w/you and the children right now...it's all about money and I'm very sorry that he's trying to push you out of your home.
I'm glad to see that you've remained strong throughout all of this for both your boys and for your sake. You are absolutely right about one thing, you are in control of changing yourself and from what you've posted...you are doing an excellent job of leading your life and being a wonderful mother to the boys. Your h doesn't realize how lucky he was to have you in his life...hopefully some day, he will.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
