Have a question. W suffers from low self esteem, which I think is contributing greatly to this mess.

She is looking for a job. But not very avtively as I know the whole thing intimidates her. She has been out of the workforce for a decade.

Having a job and a career would help her self esteem, give her something to do all day, put more money into our pockets (even if she moves out, I dont have to pay so much), and gives her better appreciation for what I go through every day.

Not getting a job keeps her dependant, but doesnt help her depression or personal growth.

With my sitch in mind, am I crazy to promote her getting a job?


Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017