Weird scenario

[Papa4Life]

You're a wedding dj?!? Oh man, just don't go all Wedding Singer and start spinng "Love Stinks" or anything, okay?

All right, you got it outta your system. It seems you needed to get that off your chest, despite my urgings to the contrary, but what's done is done. Time to start moving forward. Trust me when I say that if you keep on letting yourself be lured into thinking that telling your W a hundred times how much you really love her is only going to push her further away and push you towards a higher and higher crash dive off the cliff when you finally realize that it's not gonna work. Do yourself a favor and give DBing a chance now, even though it seems so counterintuitive.

Lean back, don't initiate contact or R talk, and work on yourself. How can she start to miss you if you don't leave her alone? The decision to reconcile is one that SHE has to make. It has to be made by her internally after a long ride on the loop-the-loop roller coaster, not by any manipulation on your part (which, let's face it, is exactly what it feels like to her when you say "Well, I hope you're happy, but it seems to me that if you keep on going down this path, you're only gonna get hurt").

And the reason all us newbies are told so often to focus on ourselves is because (get ready, here it comes) IT'S THE ONLY THING THAT WORKS! Sorry for shouting. But it's true, let's say you're W suddenly starts to have some inkling of a desire to reconcile. What happens if she finds that you've made almost no changes in yourself? Right, she just sees it as more of the same.

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