Take the hits and keep moving forward.

[T1000]

T1000, it seems to me she responded that way because she is testing the waters to see if you are able to get past the OM information or not. You couldn't give her what she wanted after the first round of texting so she switched tactics. Here is something to think about: You are both in your 30's, you have always had a hard time thinking about her with someone else, will that be different with someone else? Most likely, the people you meet are going to have had children in their previous relationship so not only will you have the knowledge that they were with someone else, you will have daily proof. It isn't going to be any different. Your w did not cheat, I know it is hard and I am sorry you have to go through this, but you were separated. You have wanted to work it out all along, take a deep breath, learn how to live with this and move forward together. The alternative isn't any prettier so why give up someone you love?

I read this and it makes total sense me. I completely agree and it is probably something very similar to what I would say to someone else.

I just need to do the 'learn how to live with this' part.

I'm totally stuck right now.

I'm hoping my IC will help when I see him tomorrow.