Well, although it's a personal question, it's publicly noted here--making it a topic up for discussion.
No, Mr. Wonderful has not had any action since late August 2002. Heck our anniversary is in September and I didn't get boinked then--which tells me how angry and resentful he really was.
My guy has a very distinct feminine side, and his manner of punishing his wild child HD W was withholding sex.
I'm sure I could spend some time in the sex forum, but I really don't think our issues are sexual. Neither of us is getting any, and it's not due to any sexual hangups or dysfunction.
CBH, I thought that a long time ago. In fact, he's made a couple comments about how the dry road of abstinence has totally sucked (especially since he knows the rewards of having HD me). I couldn't agree more that it should serve as a motivating factor.
However, this tells me that this guy has been completely shut down and numb. He hasn't been bothered to do something about his sitch because he's still numb. And as long as he's not doing anything about the numbness, he's going to remain in his MLC fog. Personally, I believe he's suffering from depression.
I suppose I ought to buy a slew of books on this subject, but it depresses me--I can't do anything about it and I can't do any more suggesting (I have, and met with big resistance). I seem to have loved ones who suffer from this illness who also seem to feel that depression is something that someone else has--not them.
UGH! This sucks!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
