I wasn't able to talk to my attorney today regarding the May support payment. I am so stressed over this. I hate that my STBX is still in control of my finances. My attorney has to get a support order ASAP. The two attorneys had decided on temporary support while settlement negotiations were on-going, but I now want a court order.
Is this controlling, vindictive behavior typical of MLCers during D? The boys and I have been hurt so much by this. Why does he continue this behavior? I know I'm in la, la land, but really, he could have come to me early on and offered to work with me to provide the very best life we can for the boys under the circumstances. Why wouldn't he want stability for them? He is going to have to pay what is ordered by the court whether we stay in our home or rent, so why is he making it difficult for me to hold onto the house? Yes, there's equity, but not enough to make it worth all of the legal fees. He doesn't want the house. He's buying his own. His actions aren't even logical. The last email I got before I blocked him was "I just want you to be happy in a house you can afford." We'll, I am happy and I'm in a house I can afford. Two brokers have provided letters to my attorney stating that I could refi in my own name.
I thought MLCers like us to be right where they left us. Mine seems to want to remove all traces of his former life even if it hurts his kids.
The judge who presided over our settlement conference told my STBX that he needed to do everything he could to help me keep the boys in their home. He said it was in their best interest. In one ear and out the other. My STBX would rather go to trial. How foolish?
