"Most importantly, understand and convince yourself of the damage you are doing by getting into these conversations."

This!! I know and that's why I don't want these conversations to drag on.
I will prepare exits for sure and more importantly I will do my best not to engage in them

M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it